Sustained passion in Marriage -who is responsible and now what?

In therapy we have had to discuss our sex life, hard task. I have always maintained that I am not a prude, always enjoyed sex and have had a wonderful and active past. My H maintains that one of his reasons for cheating is that our sex life had come to a halt. Wait a … More Sustained passion in Marriage -who is responsible and now what?

Rings and Things

It has been a while since I have posted, there have been therapy sessions, and arguments and acts of service, contrition, trying to get normal in this abnormal existence…trying to find love in anger and hurt. There are times when I am sufficiently distracted where I am able to find pure joy, and a good … More Rings and Things

With each day…

Each day is full of emotional surprises and realizations about who I am, who he is, and what we are capable of. I find myself taking on a rumination, or barrier in a moment in time and trying to do battle with it until it can be laid to rest. They run the gamut from … More With each day…

Esther Perel – Why is divorce more acceptable than infidelity?

I have been having sad thoughts (and dreams)  the last many days (weeks actually). In the wake of our recent therapy, and advice to start to do things together, I have been struggling with the unfairness of my husbands cheating and I cannot seem to put it to bed. I think about how cold and … More Esther Perel – Why is divorce more acceptable than infidelity?